Behavior and Discipline Policy

At Gan Yeladeem Learning Center, the children are taught how they should behave rather than being told what they cannot do.  We emphasize the need to behave safely and we help our children to learn the difference between safe and unsafe behaviors.  If a child acts in a manner that is unsafe to him/herself or others around them, they are asked to stop that behavior. Behaviors are identified without making the children feel they are “bad”.  Conversations between the teacher and children are loving in tone and deed.   Our teachers model appropriate classroom behavior so our children may emulate them.

The children are encouraged to follow the routines of the class.  The teachers set limits for the children.  We all make mistakes.  Sometimes a child may need to sit close to the teacher or away from the other children if he or she is unable to interact with the other children in the classroom appropriately.  The child is encouraged to tell the other children how he or she feels about a certain behavior, and the teacher also tells the child how he or she feels about the behavior.  Children are encouraged to work out their differences verbally and independently.  The teachers and director are available to speak with parents about their child’s behavior at school or at home.  As children develop, they will learn the skills they need to interact positively with their teachers and peers. 

Children do need to understand that there are consequences to their behavior whether it is negative behavior or positive behavior. The following policy was developed for those children who, for whatever reason, are unable to respond positively to the above discipline policy.

We will facilitate the development of self-control in children by treating each child with dignity, using techniques that:

∙         Set clear, consistent, fair limits

∙         Value mistakes as learning opportunities

∙         Redirect children to more appropriate behavior

∙         Listen to children discussing their feelings and frustrations.

∙         Guide children to solve their own conflicts.

∙         Patiently remind children of rules and their rationale as needed.

Inappropriate behavior is defined as:

∙         Any repeated act of aggression that puts another person at risk of being hurt, such as biting, scratching, hitting, pushing, or throwing objects.

∙         Any repeated behavior that requires an inordinate amount of time by the teacher away from the classroom routine and the other students, such as fighting, destruction of classroom property or an inability to follow classroom rules and routines, especially those regarding safety.

∙         Language may also be used inappropriately by children at times.  Language that is threatening, violent, disrespectful or mean-spirited is inappropriate.

When inappropriate behavior occurs, the following steps may be taken, as needed:

  1. 1. The child is removed from the activity in which he/she is participating and is told to choose another activity.
  2. 2.  The child is seated next to a teacher or by him/herself until he/she is able to display self control.
  3. 3.  The child’s behavior is documented on an Unusual Incident Report and/or an Accident Report (if warranted).  The report is signed by the teacher, the Director, and the parent and placed in the child’s file.
  4. 4. The parents are called to keep them informed of the child’s situation.
  5. 5. Parents are called in for a conference with the teacher and the director to discuss a behavior modification plan for the child.
  6. 6.  The Director reserves the right to make a recommendation for the child to be evaluated by a specialist (behavioral, developmental or psychological) in order to continue in the center.
  7. 7.  The Director reserves the right to expel a child who continually puts him/herself or others at risk or if a parent refuses to seek outside assistance for the child upon the Directors recommendation.

The Gan at Anshe Emeth

 222 Livingston Avenue * New Brunswick, NJ  08901  * Phone: (732) 545-6555